Dennis in MA
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I grew up watching my father work on everything. He really wasn't a patient man(something I inherited, but working on it), so I would just watch. He tried bringing me on side jobs when i was a little older but i would just end up cleaning the site instead of learning about electricity. When I got my car and something broke, quite often with a 72 LTD, I would ask him how to repair it and he would tell me what his father told him," Go to the library and get a repair manual." It seemed like a dick move but what he was teaching me was self sufficiency. He would wait until I was just about to light the car up and would come out and show me , but other than that it was book learnin'.
My dad was terrible at car mechanicking. We had a 60-something Buick Electra with a failing exhaust. Instead of asking for a mounting clip at the NAPA or bringing it to a shop to get it secured, he kept using things like coat hangers. Go figure, it didn't work. LOL.
He and my brother (who inherited the 75 Dodge Dahht Swingah) would get the Chilton manuals and STILL get lost. I think they just didn't understand how mechanical things worked.
But my dad didn't help b/c he didn't know he was supposed to. He was tossed into the deep end b/c my grandfather felt my dad was too. . . . . sensitive. Well, when you're born in 40, your dad gets shipped off to France in 42.5 and comes home in late 45/early 46 and you're raised by your mom, grandmother and 2 aunts, go figure, you might come out a bit sensitive.
I think my grandfather was a man's man and very popular. So it bothered him that his son wasn't a man's man b/c someone might call him on it. Instead of being proud of who his son was, he chafed at it. My dad didn't become a carpenter (like his dad) or a mechanic (like his younger brother). He studied computers and accounting and had a lucrative career wearing white shirts instead of blue. I don't think until my dad was in his mid-30's that my grandfather actually got it.
I've developed a LOT of compassion for my dad's lack of teaching in teh past few years. Plus he'll be 83 next month. Not much changing going to happen there. LOL.
But I did benefit a ton by my dad's "just go do it." That's not to say there wasn't a better way - which I've tried to do with my kids.