Hello,
I just thought I'd put this out there as I am sure others have a similar situation. My wife was raised in a fully anti household. All the usual rhetoric had been spewed upon her for her first 25 years of life...guns=evil, guns=dangerous, etc etc.
She is a very smart woman, and remarkably tolerant given her brainwashing as a child. She tolerated my guns and my interests, but in a "don't ask dont tell" sort of way. If i didnt show her the guns and they werent laying around the house, she didn't care about them...but she didnt really want to hear about them either. My only real gripe was that she didn't really want loaded guns in the main house, something i saw as a safety issue since I insisted on having something for SD in our bedroom.
My reaction in the beginning was "Good enough for me" since it meant I could pursue my hobby. In the back of my head I put into motion a long term plan to convert her. I began by taking a few of our friends shooting, culminating with me taking her best female frined shooting a few months ago, who LOVED it.
All along ive offered to take my wife shooting but she simply said "not interested" and I respected that knowing that forcing something on a woman is the last way to get it to happen.
Fast forward to last night. I was sitting watching TV, creating a new case for my M&P9c by using that pick-foam. When I finished she remarked how good a job the case looked and out of the blue said "you should keep that in the bedroom." My jaw nearly dropped and internally I laughed, since the gun had been in my clothes drawer in the bedroom for the past two years...out of sight and out of mind.
To follow up that shocking statement, she asked to hold the pistol and said "You know, sometime this summer i'll come to the range with you..." Being the smart husband, I didnt jump all over this and simply said "yeah i bet once you shoot once, all your misconceptions about guns will wash away" and dropped the subject.
I thought I'd just post this to show that given enough time and by setting an example of compromise and demonstrated safety, even someone born into an anti household can be converted. All it took was patience, planting the seeds of saftey and self defense, and a few of her friends coming home with their targets, giggling and smiling.
I just thought I'd put this out there as I am sure others have a similar situation. My wife was raised in a fully anti household. All the usual rhetoric had been spewed upon her for her first 25 years of life...guns=evil, guns=dangerous, etc etc.
She is a very smart woman, and remarkably tolerant given her brainwashing as a child. She tolerated my guns and my interests, but in a "don't ask dont tell" sort of way. If i didnt show her the guns and they werent laying around the house, she didn't care about them...but she didnt really want to hear about them either. My only real gripe was that she didn't really want loaded guns in the main house, something i saw as a safety issue since I insisted on having something for SD in our bedroom.
My reaction in the beginning was "Good enough for me" since it meant I could pursue my hobby. In the back of my head I put into motion a long term plan to convert her. I began by taking a few of our friends shooting, culminating with me taking her best female frined shooting a few months ago, who LOVED it.
All along ive offered to take my wife shooting but she simply said "not interested" and I respected that knowing that forcing something on a woman is the last way to get it to happen.
Fast forward to last night. I was sitting watching TV, creating a new case for my M&P9c by using that pick-foam. When I finished she remarked how good a job the case looked and out of the blue said "you should keep that in the bedroom." My jaw nearly dropped and internally I laughed, since the gun had been in my clothes drawer in the bedroom for the past two years...out of sight and out of mind.
To follow up that shocking statement, she asked to hold the pistol and said "You know, sometime this summer i'll come to the range with you..." Being the smart husband, I didnt jump all over this and simply said "yeah i bet once you shoot once, all your misconceptions about guns will wash away" and dropped the subject.
I thought I'd just post this to show that given enough time and by setting an example of compromise and demonstrated safety, even someone born into an anti household can be converted. All it took was patience, planting the seeds of saftey and self defense, and a few of her friends coming home with their targets, giggling and smiling.