A fair point.
In response, I care because innocents will always get hurt. Even if they aren’t in the crossfire, the criminal thugs have family, too, and they will mourn their loss.
I don't think I could take that that empathetic of a position. My wife has.... a giant POS of a person for a brother. His arrests, drug trafficking, prescription forging, identity theft, fraud, I tried to look past that for my wife as he is the only family she has left in the state apart from an uncle who's stroke did not help his dementia, and an aunt who subsists almost entirely off of Wild Irish Rose. I tried to be accommodating in hopes that at some point, he MIGHT just turn his life around.
The day I washed my hands of that human debris was the day she took the time to set up rides to and from our home, a favorite home cooked meal for him to celebrate his birthday in our home, complete with my wife convincing his 14 year old daughter to attend despite a strained relationship. I spent 2 hours consoling my wife with my BIL's oldest daughter (who knew better but wanted to see us) when he actively ignored her calls in favor of other pursuits. Most likely the kind that has resulted in him having 3 children from 3 different mothers.
The closest I came to throttling him was after Christmas, when he spent 3 months in jail and my wife still had the heart to try to save some of his belongings from his apartment, he had the gall to accuse her of stealing some dorky knockoff WWE belts.
The only thing I am grateful for is it allowed by wife to finally accept she lost his brother a long time ago.
I tell you this, because the reality of it, is that it only forces them to accept and mourn the loss, regardless of when they truly become lost.