Rob Boudrie
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Two sides to that - politeness on the part of the person pointing out the issue goes a long. First one who starts being impolite is the jerk.IMHO the difference between making a mistake and just being a jerk lies in the reaction to someone telling you that you're breaking the rules. Some people will own up to it, apologize, and stop the behavior. Others will try to argue, take offense, and possibly continue the behavior. It's a big difference. So far in my years at Harvard every time I spoke to someone about a rules violation I witnessed they were embarrassed at their own mistake and corrected their behavior - no harm, no foul.
The worst I ever saw was a member at a club I was visiting being told "You had better think carefully about the next words out of your mouth since I can have you thrown out of this club".
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